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Behind-the-scenes notes on what we built in Amicai, why, and what it changes about how you keep up with people.
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I Searched for a Relationship Intelligence App. I Found Sales CRMs.
I searched for a relationship intelligence app. The whole first page was B2B sales CRMs. The phrase belongs to the people we love — not the deals we close.
We Red-Teamed Amicai This Week. Here's What We Found.
This week we wired up Promptfoo to red-team Amicai's own LLMs. 158 adversarial probes, zero PII leaked. Here's what we found and what we're hardening.
Is My AI Chatbot Data Safe? Here's How to Tell.
How to actually evaluate whether an AI app's data handling is safe — six concrete questions, beyond the marketing copy that says 'we take privacy seriously.'
AI Memory Privacy: What to Actually Look For
Most AI memory privacy comparisons are checklists. The harder question is what AI memory should look like if it's designed for the person, not the platform.
SMS Relationship Analysis for Friends and Family
AI text analysis tools are split between dating apps and business marketing. The middle — friends, family, the relationships that matter — has been ignored.
The AI Birthday Reminder That Actually Knows the Person
Most birthday reminder apps generate generic AI greetings. The version that works actually knows what's going on in the person's life.
Pick Your AI Provider, and What We Shipped
A court ordered OpenAI to produce 20 million ChatGPT logs. Anthropic quietly cut retention. Apple is going on-device. Here's why the two big things Amicai shipped — bring your own provider key, and on-device AI on Android — are the direction we're going to keep pushing.
Amicai Is Your Digital Best Friend
What if your childhood best friend stayed with you into your adulthood — always available, always listening, always aware of what you're carrying? That's what we're building, and how we think about your privacy while we do.
Where AI Is Heading, and What We Shipped This Week
Three stories from the last six weeks — Tumbler Ridge, the Claude Code rollback, and the Sanders report — and why they keep me building Amicai the way we do.
Your Journal Now Shows Up in Your Chat
For six months journaling in Amicai was write-only. The chat agent never read your entries; the contact profile never grew. That's the loop we just closed.
ChatGPT Doesn't Know You Had a Nine-Meeting Day
Tonight Amicai pulled a callback from a conversation we'd had weeks ago, walked me through what was actually wrong, and named the pattern in one sentence ChatGPT couldn't have written.
We Finally Built the Android Friendship App We Wanted
Most "relationship apps" on Android are couples apps, chatbots, or trackers. We wanted something simpler: an Android app that helps you notice the people you are about to lose touch with.
Your Handwritten Journal, Now Legible to the AI That Knows Your People
I keep a small notebook next to my bed. The pages finally have somewhere to go — linked to the people you wrote about, read by the AI that already knows them.
The Hardest Part of a Phone Call Is the Ten Minutes After
Phone calls carry more real information than almost any other conversation. Then the phone goes in your pocket and the details start leaking out by the minute. Here's the small card we built for the ten minutes after.
The Follow-Up List for Your Friendships That You Never Had to Write
You thought of the thing to text Marcus in the cereal aisle on Tuesday. By the time you got home, it was gone. Here's what we built to hold those thoughts until you have two minutes to act on them.
Every Plan You Made Over Text That Never Actually Happened
"We should grab dinner sometime." "Let's do that hike before it gets cold." The text-thread graveyard is real — and the fix is boring: plans need to live somewhere other than the thread they were made in.
When the AI Says Something About You Worth Keeping
Once in a while, a chat agent says something back to you that's slightly truer than you were willing to say to yourself. Most AI tools let that moment vanish into a chat log. This one doesn't.
AI Relationship Advice Is Generic. Here's Why.
I asked ChatGPT how to handle a tense situation with a friend. It told me to 'approach with empathy.' Thanks. Without knowing my actual people, AI advice is a fortune cookie.
Your Conversations Now Sync to Google Calendar
Plans come up in conversation and then evaporate. Now Amicai puts them on your calendar with one tap.
I Searched for a Relationship Tracking App. I Found 50 Love Counters.
Every relationship tracking app is built for couples. None of them help with the 30 other people who matter in your life.
Six Months of Journaling Told a Story I Couldn't See From the Inside
Most AI apps talk to you like a stranger every time. We spent months building one that doesn't.
I Let AI Analyze 90 Days of My Texts. Here's What I Learned.
What happens when you let an AI read 3 months of your conversations? Turns out, the data tells a story you already knew but were ignoring.
AI Relationship Apps Have It Backwards. Here's Why.
Most AI relationship apps want to replace your conversations. The ones that actually help push you toward real people, not away from them.
We Don't Do End-to-End Encryption. Here's What We Actually Do.
We don't do full end-to-end encryption. Here's exactly what we do instead, why, and what Apple's E2E track record tells you about the gap between security marketing and security reality.
Your iMessage History Is a Relationship Diary You Never Wrote
Your iMessage history contains patterns about your relationships that you've never seen. Here's what happens when AI reads the metadata of your conversations — not the words, but the rhythms.
The Best AI Relationship Insight I've Gotten Was Three Sentences Long
Most AI relationship tools analyze your compatibility or replace your conversations. What if the best use of AI is just helping you notice what you already missed?
Some Conversations Are Off Limits. Your AI Should Know That.
Most AI apps want access to everything. We built a feature that lets you decide exactly which conversations the AI never touches.
Amicai Isn't a CRM for Your Friends
A friend said Amicai felt like Salesforce for friendships. He's right to worry — but wrong about what it actually does. Here's the difference between managing relationships and noticing them.
What Happens When AI Notices Things You Forgot
My friend told me his mom was diagnosed with something serious. I read the message, felt something, and then completely forgot. Three weeks later, an AI caught what I missed.
Your Phone Numbers Are Safe. Here's Exactly How.
You're considering letting AI analyze your texts. Here's the honest answer about what happens to the phone numbers in your contact list.
What Do AI Companies Actually Do With Your Data?
You use AI chat tools every day. But what happens to your conversations behind the scenes? Here's what Anthropic's legal documents actually say — and how Amicai adds another layer of protection.
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